I just had to post/ rant about this.
I am 35 years old. I'm a mom. I'm well educated. I work. I pay my bills. I do my thing just like millions of other folks out there maneuvering in a country full of economic and political upheaval, i.e. Important shit. So why did a supposedly 'grown woman' feel the need to make fun of my hair yesterday? (lol and smh)
I was at a middle school orientation with my son. We were broken down into groups for a tour and there was an interracial couple (the woman is Latina and the man Afr. American, which is not a big deal to me at all having been in the same situation and now raising a biracial child, anyway...) in our group, with their son. All is well, and when the tour is over we all get into the elevator to leave, the couple is positioned right next to me. I gave a nod and a smile (we'd chatted a little bit during the tour) and set my sights on stopping off at Mickey D's before heading home. So then I hear the woman say to her man "Psst, look at her hair" and then she laughs. And my immediate response was 1-eyebrow raise, and then 2- "Really?"
First of all, these folks were about in my age range, if not older. Second, 'perdon chica, pero el pelo de tu esposo y tu hijo es mismo de mio' (in my broken Spanish I wrote 'Excuse me, but the hair of your husband and your child is the same as mine), and third, uhh, how old are you? And fourth, 'screw you bia-tch because my hair is big and fabulous.
I found it really interesting that a grown woman would resort to that type of behavior as we were both at a school open house for our kids. And I also got irritated because there are still people who have an issue with big, curly, non-processed hair. I've said it before and I'll say it again - if my hair isn't grabbing small children, and as long as it's clean and there are no bugs hopping from my scalp to yours, step off (I actually wanted to write something a bit more vulgar, but I'm trying to live by example by taking the high road). What is it with woman being so critical of other women? I, personally, am so past all of that, but she instigated a flashback to those times when very few people (because a lot of kids were scared of me) bumped their heads on the kitchen sinks and came to school thinking that that day was a good day to f**k with me. (Note: despite the previous line, I really am a nice person - but I'm also from the Bronx! lol!)