Ok, I never really had 'sexy' in the first place, but I think ya'll know what I mean.
My sister has inspired me, as she is going through some major transition in her life, to find and acquire her 'sexy.' Let me explain. My sister and I were raised during a time in my mom's life when we were taught to take care of things. It was like going to independent college during my entire childhood - this while other girls' moms were priming them for things like 'marriage' and the notion of being taken care of. Me being the oldest of 7 to parents who had me at ages 18 and 19 respectively, I think we all see where this is going. I did a lot of taking care of people. It is literally in my blood to take care of something or someone...except myself, lol! My sister was no slouch in the 'taking care of business' business as well, and so we kinda just automatically handle things. On a totally superficial level, my sis doesn't really have to put as much effort into achieving her sexy as I do - real talk - but as we are both moms, I totally understand how working women in our positions just go into autopilot when it comes to ourselves. So, for a couple of months she's been on her 'getting my sexy on' kick, and I hear that. And it just hit me - where is my sexy? Did I ever have it? Can I achieve it? What are the steps? Is there a book out there? A website? A guru? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?
So, since I am the perpetually single, younger, thinner Aunt Jemima self, I propose the possibility of setting out on a journey to get my SexyBack (I'm gonna pretend that at some point in my life I actually had sexy and just lost it on the side of the road somewhere!). And I'm gonna compose my own syllabus to achieve this goal (please note, this syllabus is a work in progress).
Steps for me to get my SexyBack:
- Work out more. I actually work out pretty moderately, but I have no qualms about going a week or two without lifting a finger. Even if it's so much as walking on my stepper contraption while watching TV, I have to keep going. It's good for my muscles, good for my heart, and good for my asthma, especially with the weather change that we're experiencing right now. Plus, ain't nothing sexy about a chick who's out of breath and she didn't just finish doing to do - ya know!
- The old island woman hair has to go during the work week. This is a difficult one for me because I have learned that there actually is a positive to being a little lazy, lol! Being lazy has allowed for my hair to just grow wild. The lack of manipulation has been great - especially since I had a Britney moment back in May and chopped off my hair (I have since regained the length that I shed all those months ago). Thing is, this headband and hairnet thing - although cute and less time consuming, is not sexy. But I offer myself a compromise - I will use more hair accessories, because I am really not feeling the whole being late for work because my hair won't cooperate (and I damn sure ain't waking up earlier just to do some hair! This ain't Easter Sunday, shyyyyytttt!).
- Clothing. Ugh, clothing. Here's the deal. I definitely downsized since the move a few months ago (and that was totally necessary), but now I have to start replacing pieces. Regarding the physique, do I think I could be more toned - of course. But for the most part, I am definitely digging the body on this 35 year old! Now how do I jazz it up without looking like the old lady trying to look like a 20 year old? I'm thinking more tailored clothing, especially tops. I wear the hell out of a skirt so I just have to get more skirts. More pants suits - I have the ability to rock those too. And smaller t-shirts (still trying to figure out why I have a bunch of -shirts that are so big I can fit 2 of me in them).
- Teeth. I have nice teeth, even though I have a small gap in the middle, but I have had serious teeth-envy ever since I saw Bruno Mars' teeth. They are un-freaking-real!
- State of mind. TBD. I seriously don't even know how to 'think' sexy. If it has anything to do with just being comfortable with oneself, then I think I'm on the right track, but I see chicks who exude it, they do some weird shit with their eyes and lips and cheeks and whatever else - they throw the kitchen sink at MFs. I don't know how to do that (and still not sure that I want to - refer back to the fear of being an old lady trying to be a 20 year old).