I just read an article on MadameNoire that made me want to chime in on the topic of women settling, or more to the point: for women to stop settling.
I'll try not to be a pessimist about this, because I still have hope for many things - but sometimes, not settling is hard to do for some things. I do agree, however, that settling is not a good look at all.
For instance, in my experience with "relationships" it has been proven that whenever I settled, I have suffered many an emotional and physical ramifications. And I always knew immediately "this shit happened because my ass settled." If anything, I am more than honest with myself, especially when I screw up.
It's a great article, especially when one needs a bit of a pep talk to rise out of the dumps of despair. Maybe I'll even get it through my thick head one day, lol!